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Cheon Seong Gyeong 1480
The brave soldiers of the Unification Church must achieve mind-body unity in whatever circumstances. How can you achieve this unity during your lifetime? Those who cannot achieve it, and yet think of love and the ideal, should feel ashamed of themselves because it is contrary to God’s will. The new path of hope opens only to those who wish for it after having achieved perfect mind-body unity. If you stagnate in your current position, the path leading to God’s new kingdom of hope will not open up before you. (205-45, 1990.7.7)
Richard: There are two main parts to achieving mind-body unity, and therefore, individual perfection. The first is maintaining absolute sexual ethics, meaning abstinence from sex before marriage and absolute fidelity within marriage.
Second, is living a life of service, being unselfish. We should do the right thing just because it is the right thing, and it pleases God.
Cheon Seong Gyeong 1363
On February 8, 1975, I performed the 1800 Couples Blessing. Now that the Unification Church members have made their debut, first on an individual and then on a family basis, not only the members of my family but all church members should become known throughout the world. Since this is God’s will, we must become living monuments that represent and testify to this victory on the family level; thus, based on the achievement of having overcome the hardships of the first and second seven-year courses, we can finally expand our families horizontally on earth centering on the Parents through the third seven-year course. This was valiantly displayed in the ceremony on February 8. (77-217, 1975.4.12)
Cheon Seong Gyeong
Selections from the Speeches of Rev. Sun Myung Moon
Book 3
true love
Chapter 2
The Reality of Love
Section 4. Conjugal Love
4.2. Conjugal love cannot be fulfilled if it is shared with another person
In marriage relationships throughout the world, power comes when the husband earns and brings home money. The wife is naturally strengthened upon seeing the money he brings home, and the husband naturally gains strength seeing his wife so empowered. But if they are unable to earn money they become agitated, and their relationship may even break. A true husband and wife, however, should create oneness in love with God at the center. (Blessed Family – 880)
Some men, when they see a pretty woman, wish that she were his wife, even if he has his own wife. Of such a man with two minds, we say that he has a thief’s disposition. Since it is Satan who started out with two minds, it is not wrong to call a man “Satan” who has two minds. If there is such a man, he is no different from Satan. (Blessed Family – 348)
A husband and wife can be considered a pair; however just as every face differs, people’s fortunes differ. They have different destinies in life. Even if the husband has a bad destiny, if his wife has a good destiny, her destiny can change the husband’s destiny for the better. Conversely, even if the wife has a bad destiny, if her husband has a good destiny, this can change her destiny for the better. Therefore, we can say that the destiny of husband and wife is like creating level ground by tearing down mountains and filling up valleys. After creating level ground, they can plant trees, plough fields, and pursue a variety of plans for their love as they keep the ideals of husband and wife. From the standpoint of such principles, you should not just see the external appearance when you find your spouse. Marriage is a fearsome thing. (God’s Will and the World – 543)
You thought you would be happy after meeting your husband, but there are bad times as well. You should not hope for good things only. Would it be good to be bathed in sunlight continuously for twenty-four hours? There must also be nighttime. Isn’t it natural that something that is high comes down? (30-141, 1970.3.21)
A happy family is one where when the husband returns home he discusses with his wife everything that happened while he was out, and this reveals new things to pioneer. A happy family is one where they join their strengths and research together. When the parents do this, the children will contribute their strengths and join in with them, expressing their hope to build such a family. (29-113, 1970.2.25)
A loving husband and wife should not unilaterally stipulate and fix in their minds what their spouse’s face should be like. If you imagine the face of your partner as having only one appearance, nothing could be more boring. When you look at your partner’s face with joy, it will appear to be joyful; and if you look upon it with a loving heart, it will look beautiful. You should always see your partner’s face as new, like that of water swirling when it flows with new shapes appearing at every turn. (Blessed Family – 880)
Human beauty does not just reside in the face. It can be seen and felt from all directions. Beauty is three-dimensional, like a ball. Whether seen from above, seen from the side, or seen from any direction, a person has his or her own perfect beauty. So you should not carelessly evaluate your wife’s face. Many beautiful women are poor, but women who have virtue or good fortune are of a different type. We often see that even in the case of a woman with a pretty face, her face becomes strange after having just two or three children. So we can conclude that those who can maintain their beauty even after childbirth are beautiful women. (God’s Will and the World – 543)
When a husband and wife love each other, each should love their spouse as a representative of God. When they love each other from a humanistic perspective, the shortcomings on both sides will come out, and this may eventually lead to their divorce. (Blessed Family – 880)
Love has value when people miss each other. In asking for love, use your mouth to speak and watch with your eyes open wide, so that you can please the one who gives love. You should know that if you remain dull, love will turn back on the path and run away. If a person giving love is not serious but has a passive attitude, how offended the other would be! (Blessed Family – 887)
Richard: This is incredible marriage advice; seeing your spouse as a representative of God!