Which Is Greater, Conjugal Love or the Love between Parents and Children?

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Cheon Seong Gyeong 1482

No matter how long you have been in the Unification Church, you should not leave your sins buried as they are. They need to be cleansed. You need to start afresh with a clean slate, be resurrected anew, and become men and women who can live in the Garden of Eden with- out sinning. You need the awareness of God’s intention for the complete unity in love of your mind and body, as created by Him. Do you understand? Otherwise, you cannot return to the homeland.

You need to find the way back to your house in the homeland, where our origi- nal house is located, and where God, our original Parent, dwells. That is where the descendants of the nation who have the birthright of the firstborn should live and reign over all other nations based on the life of the imperial family. That place is your new home. How shall you go about finding your way back, not to your birthplace but your new home- land, the original home? First, you need to acquire the qualification to enter that homeland. In order to do so, you must achieve a realm of oneness through total mind-body unity. (233-168, 1992.8.1)

Cheon Seong Gyeong 1189

Cain represents Satan’s side. It is the position of the elder brother. Abel represents God’s side. This is the battle. Originally, God would have loved the first- born son, and then the younger son. Due to the Fall, the first son, Cain, stands on Satan’s side. He belongs to Satan’s side.

In order to save him, God designated Abel. God designates Abel to restore the right of the firstborn son. This cannot be achieved by force; you have to inspire people by love. You have to achieve restoration by melting them with love. If you cannot stand in the position of having loved them, if you cannot win their heart through offering your love, then you will not be in a position to truly love your own son or daughter. As viewed from God’s ideal of creation, the first- born son was originally to be loved first rather than the second child. (140-38, 1986.2.1)

Cheon Seong Gyeong

Selections from the Speeches of Rev. Sun Myung Moon
Book 3

true love

Chapter 2

The Reality of Love

Section 3. Parental Love

3.2. Parents’ love is complete even after being shared over and over again

Why is it that we love our children? Why is it that we cannot help loving them? It is because loving our children is like inheriting God’s great work of creation on the horizontal, substantial level. We are feeling the joy God felt after creating Adam and Eve. We are inheriting God’s love and God’s authority to create. (76-45, 1975.1.26)

Although people may not understand this, parents who have raised many children can see that their heart of love is wide, large, and deep. People who have raised many children can feel on their own that they cannot strike even their wicked enemies. They are standing on that broad a foundation and living according to that broad a law. (51-318, 1971.12.5)

When an infant is born, he follows the electric current of love and automatically seeks out a nipple. It does not matter whether she is ugly or beautiful – she just has to be his mother. This is indeed a sight of unmatched harmony and holiness. (298-304, 1999.1.17)

People are born in love and grow up while receiving love. Each of us is the fruit of our parents’ love. You are the visible, real fruit of what your mother and father’s love is like. Parents have to love the person who is the fruit of their love.
Through this fruit the infinite love bears fruit yet again. Here is the path whereby we can be connected to individual love, family love, tribal love, global love, universal love, and even to the fundamental love of God. (126-245, 1983.4.24)

You are a unique participant and companion in love in front of your parents. With love, you can be equal to your mother and father and rise to an equal position. This is a privilege of love. Parents want to bequeath everything they own to their sons and daughters, whom they truly love. To inherit the universe, you can jump in and inherit a hundred percent when you have found an equal position of value of love in the tradition of love. This is why parents want to have children of filial piety. Children of filial piety pass on the inheritance of love as participants in the eternal love of their parents. (140-233, 1986.2.12)

A baby, who is born through love, can do whatever he likes, and you do not dislike him; rather, you like him no matter what. This is because that baby is made from your flesh and blood, and is a second you, created through love. So whether he defecates, or urinates, or has a runny nose, he is cute and adorable. This is because these things are soaked in love. (Blessed Family – 887)

The love between the parents and children comes from the parents. We receive our parents’ love from the moment of birth. We receive parents’ love and grow up, and then engage in the horizontal love between husband and wife; in order for the love of the husband and wife to continue, they must have children and love them. The parents can feel genuine love only when they have children. The love of brothers and sisters alone can- not tell us what parents’ love is. In other words, we can come to know that love only when we have experienced the circular course starting from your parents and completing the circle by becoming a parent ourselves. (66-119, 1973.4.18)

To each of us, the love string of our mother – our parents – and the string of our ideals are connected, and this can- not be cut off by anyone. Rather, all the power of the universe is protecting it.
Thus, wherever I go, my parents will follow me. My parents always want to be with me, even in the spirit world. Thus, it is a sin to dislike your parents accompanying you. Hence, you should know that thinking of and loving our parents like they are our own body and practicing filial piety has the highest value for human beings. (298-300, 1999.1.17)

It is from our parents’ love that we were born. We were born by being engrafted to our parents’ love. Before the connections of life and of lineage are made, through love, the connections of lineage and the connections of life are in place. Why is it that each individual is so precious? Each person is not precious just because he has life, but because he has participated together in his parents’ love. It is parents who have loved, but it is the individual that is the fruit of their love. Each one is precious because he is born having both the beginning point and the fruit. (140-233, 1986.2.12)

Genuine parents will strive to continue the tradition of love. This is the same for Orientals and for Westerners.  All parents try to establish the universal tradition of love by transcending their own tribe. People, whoever they are, try to bring together their family in completeness and harmony and live a happy and peaceful life. Regardless of whether one is from the East or the West, every- one thirsts after such a life. In this case tradition is the essence. This is because only tradition is connected with the future. (Tongil Segye 1978. 11-11)

Which is greater, conjugal love or the love between parents and child? Western people think that conjugal love is greater. But that is not so. Love for a child is greater than the love between husband and wife. In conjugal love, the husband and wife fight because they think the other does not love them, but parents and children fight thinking they must love the other more. This is because the love of parents and child is the center and vertical, and follows the road that is close to the heavenly law. Thus, we find that the love that serves others is closer to genuine love. However strong a man may be, and however tough a woman may be, they will bow down to that love. (90-84, 1976.12.19)

The reason parents are precious is that they give for the sake of their children. So things come to be the other way around: when the parents get old, they become children. Long before, the parents were their children’s teachers, but as they become seventy and eighty years old, they become like children. At that time, the child takes the place of the father or mother. The child should love his parents just as they raised him.  This is the principle of heaven and earth. (137‐95, 1985.12.24)
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