Cheon Seong Gyeong 1954
Now you must not think about any success or goal that centers on your own self. The reason I demand Japan’s success is to obtain success for the entire world. If you, of all people, can stand together and carry out the heavenly mission of restoring Japan, we would not need even twenty more years. Sacrificial offerings will be needed continuously in order to fulfill that mission. Sacrificial offerings should not be made from their own subjective viewpoint. In dealing with the whole, they should be determined existentially centering on God. That is the mission of a sacrificial offering. To become a sacrificial offering you must absolutely refrain from putting forth your own subjective perspective. (15-84, 1965.9.29)
Cheon Seong Gyeong 1020
I am at a loss for words before a devoted person. As leader of the Unification Church, when I am considering which of two people is better, I do not take into account who is handsome, but rather I look at the direction of their mind. In other words, I see whether their mind is public or personal. (31-260, 1970.6.4)
Cheon Seong Gyeong
Selections from the Speeches of Rev. Sun Myung Moon
Book 7
Etiquette and Ceremonies
Chapter 4
Tradition and Daily Etiquette of Blessed Families
Summary:
A wife has the important responsibility to support her husband’s success and act as his equal partner, stepping in to take his place whenever he is away. Marriage naturally includes both good and bad times, but a wife should not be discouraged by poverty or simple clothes, as her husband’s deep love and gratitude for her are more valuable than diamonds. Couples should avoid petty arguments and focus on God’s will, while husbands should show visible love by celebrating their wives’ birthdays and using prayer to deeply understand their wives’ moods and feelings. Ultimately, genuine love transforms how a couple interacts; when true love is present, even harsh words or correction can strengthen a marriage, whereas actions without love only cause pain and destruction.
Section 5. Proper Behavior between Spouses
5.1. Spouses are companions for life
The wife should make her husband successful. She should be his great supporter. (21-79, 1968.10.20)
If a husband tells his wife not to intervene in his business, should she not intervene at all? A wife can stand as an equal in position to her husband. If her husband is absent, the wife should be able to take his place. (31-210, 1970.5.31)
You thought it would be great once you got a husband. However, there are bad times as well. You are not supposed to expect only good things. Can you bathe in the sun twenty-four hours a day? You need the night. Is it not a rule that the high is followed by the low? (30- 143, 1970.3.21)
A wife should not be sad because her household is poor or because she cannot wear nice clothes. It is not as though your husband does not know your heart. Deep love and priceless treasures more valuable than diamonds are hidden in his heart of feeling sorry for you. (141-26, 1986.2.16)
I want to advise wives to awaken their husbands from sleeping by chiding them, “How can you sleep so much?” (12- 89, 1962.11.11)
A small dose of comfort will immediately dispel a woman’s anger. (203-155, 1990.6.24)
Couples should not engage in petty fights in which they accuse each other of not loving or recognizing one another. Even when you quarrel, you should do so for God’s will. (21-87, 1968.11.3)
On your wife’s birthday, you should invite ladies from your neighborhood and dance and sing in front of them, showing a loving heart toward your wife. (127-95, 1983.5.5)
You can tell, just from listening to your wife or others in your household, whether they had a good day or not. So, when the wife walks in, you ask her, “Why are you upset?” Then, she is at a loss for words because the husband already knows everything without even having seen her. You should be able to gauge things in this way. When you pray for someone out of concern, you will come to know things like this. (42- 174, 1971.3.4)
Even if a loving husband were to curse in his home, it can become a stimulant for love. One word from an unloving husband can cause destruction where that word cuts into the flesh. If there is love, even being chastised would be acceptable, but without love, everything would be detestable. (83-177, 1976.2.8)
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Daily Inspiration Discussion Forum
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