Should Young Men and Women Go on Dates?

Cheon Seong Gyeong 2250

What should blessed couples do if they fight? They should call their physical children and then their spiritual children to ask their forgiveness because the former represent Abel and the latter represent Cain. Having gone against the tradition that Cain and Abel should follow, they did not make Cain and Abel unite but did the opposite instead, and therefore must repent before them. Such a time will come. We share a common destiny. When the children do something wrong, they must obtain their parents’ forgiveness. If the husband, their father, does something wrong, he must beg them, and his wife, for forgiveness. This is the true family with true love at the center. (135-38, 1985.8.20)

Cheon Seong Gyeong 1186

On August 31, 1989, in Alaska I declared the Ceremony of the Settlement of the Eight Stages that allowed humankind to shift into the age when indemnity is no longer needed. This means that wherever I or the believers of the Unification Church go, the age of persecution is over. From now on, if we build the Kingdom of Heaven or do anything we want, no one can accuse us. That kind of foundation was laid by the Ceremony of the Settlement of the Eight Stages.


3. Is Touching or Even Looking Permitted?

You shall not eat of the fruit… neither shall you touch it, lest you die.
    Genesis 3.3

Offering presents to a woman, romping with her, touching her ornaments and dress, sitting with her on a bed, all these are considered adulterous acts.
    Laws of Manu 8.357 (Hinduism)

You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
    Matthew 5.27-28

The adultery of the eye is the lustful look, and the adultery of the tongue is the licentious speech, and the heart desires and yearns, which the parts may or may not put into effect.
    Hadith of Muslim (Islam)

It is true that you commit no actual crimes; but when you meet a beautiful woman in another’s home and cannot banish her from your thoughts, you have committed adultery with her in your heart. Consider a moment! Would you have sufficient control over yourself to imitate the sage Lu Nantze if you were placed in a similar position? When he once found himself obliged to pass the night in a house whose only other occupant was a woman, he lighted a lamp and read aloud until morning to avoid exposing her to unjust suspicions.
    Treatise on Response and Retribution, Appended Tales (Taoism)

The Buddha said, “Be careful not to look at women and do not talk with them. If you must speak with them, be properly mindful and think, ‘I am a shramana living in a turbid world.25I should be like the lotus flower and not be defiled by the mud.’ Regard old women the way you regard your mother. Regard those who are older than you the way you regard your elder sisters; regard those who are younger than you as your younger sisters, and regard children as your own. Bring forth thoughts to rescue them, and put an end to bad thoughts.”
    Sutra of Forty-two Sections 29 (Buddhism)

Teachings of Rev. Sun Myung Moon

In the Western world, men and women shake hands, hold hands and hug each other so casually that they do not feel any special sensation. In the East, however, men and women rarely have physical contact with each other. So if they happen to merely brush against each other, they feel an electric spark. 
    Which is better, for men and women to have frequent physical contact or to refrain from touching until they are fully mature? When the electricity sparks, would you rather it be 50 volts or 100 volts? Therefore, you should wait. What do you think? Should young men and women go on dates, hold hands and kiss each other before marriage? You should wait and refrain from touching until you are fully ripe, like an apple that has turned totally red. Then even at the touch of your partner’s hand you will feel an exciting electrical spark. Yet most American women never experience the full sensation of first love, because having dissipated their electricity, the remaining charge is only at 50 volts or even 30 volts. Now what do you think of American style love?
    Satan uses this and many other methods to invade the realm of high-intensity love. To a pure teenage boy, a girl is like a palace of mysteries. Likewise, to a pure teenage girl, a boy is like a palace of mysteries. But these days, where is the mystery? Boys and girls behave like animals. They love each other like cats and dogs, without any vertical love. (125:103, March 13, 1983)
The religious life is one in which your conscience tortures your body until it surrenders. Once the flesh is completely dead, your conscience should occupy it so it can never come back to life again. Thus, the mind must dominate the flesh.
    Therefore, you should turn your habitual way of seeing inside out and see straight. Your eyes, which have been looking at things 180 degrees opposite the way they ought to, should now turn 180 degrees opposite their former way of seeing. Whereas, before, when you were on the satanic side you looked through the left eye, now you should look through the right eye. In other words, your eyes, which could not see properly because they were 180 degrees off, should be united with your conscience and return to their original place, coming back to the right side after having rotated 360 degrees. From that time on, your eyes are welcome to view anything because you see with the eyes of the original mind. (261:303-04, July 24, 1994)

We Acquire Virtues by First Actually Practicing Them

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Cheon Seong Gyeong 1645

Even the microorganisms, which practice their own forms of love, take pride in the fact that they were also created to play their part within the same realm of the ideal of creation, which is represented by the universal pair system. They are proud of the fact that although you are big and they are small, if they can unite with you and give you a part of themselves, they are more than willing to share themselves with you for eterni-ty. They are different from fallen human beings. The creation of one chemical substance signifies that the plus and the minus elements have found and become one with each other. How silly human beings are by comparison! They are in fact essentially disharmonious, and this is the problem. (209-189, 1990.11.29)

Cheon Seong Gyeong 1187

The Ceremony of the Settlement of the Eight Stages signifies that the historical course of vertical indemnity and the course of horizontal indemnity that went through the stages of individual, family, people, nation, and the world. That is the vertical and horizontal courses consisting of eight stages are completed. Due to this, the right of eldest son has been restored, and the course of indemnity for all humanity is abolished. That is what I have done by holding this ceremony. The right of the eldest son is restored; the Parents are embracing all humankind. Thus, an end is brought to the history of war and struggle that was necessary in order for the right of the eldest son to be restored in the realm of parental love. The time has come when indemnity is not needed and we can reach harmony in love. In order to achieve this, I had to hold the Ceremony of the Settlement of the Eight Stages. By holding this ceremony, the Parents forgave both the elder and the younger son, so that next we can enter the age of the realm of forgiveness for the fallen parents. (193-173, 1989.10.3)

Cultivating the Good

GOODNESS REQUIRES EFFORT. Since evil infests our world and infects our minds and bodies, we mostly find it difficult to do the right thing. Hence, to become a genuinely good person requires sustained effort at self-cultivation. Aristotle writes that cultivating good character is like learning an art or a skill. If a person makes continual efforts to practice good deeds over a long period, he will form good habits. Good habits cultivated over many years leads to the formation of good character. The human spirit is like a field that must be sowed, cultivated and weeded every day if it is to bear a good crop.
If people do not attend to goodness but tolerate small faults, over time they will develop bad habits that become progressively more ingrained. Thus good begets good, while evil begets evil. Father Moon reminds us that because the propensity for evil is highly developed in fallen people, we must be actively engaged in efforts to do well; as even simple neglect can lead to our downfall.

1. Cultivating the Good through a Lifetime of Practice

Not to do any evil, to cultivate good, to purify one’s mind—this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
    Dhammapada 183 (Buddhism)
The virtues we acquire by first having actually practiced them, just as we do the arts. We learn an art or craft by doing the things that we shall have to do when we have learnt it: for instance, men become builders by building houses, harpers by playing on the harp. Similarly we become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.
    Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics 2.1.4 (Hellenism)
Carefully uphold the proper norms of conduct, and imitate them day and night so that there will not be a moment’s neglect or cessation. After a time, we become familiar with them, and then we no longer need to imitate them but can make our own standard.
    Chu Hsi (Confucianism)
Gain: The superior man, seeing what is good, imitates it;
Seeing what is bad, he corrects it in himself.
    I Ching 42 (Confucianism
Whatever you would make habitual, practice it; and if you would not make a thing habitual, do not practice it, but habituate yourself to something else.
    Epictetus (Hellenism)
Engage in Torah and charity even with an ulterior motive, for the habit of right doing will lead also to right motivation.
    Talmud, Pesahim 50b (Judaism)
By degrees, little by little, from time to time, a wise person should remove his own impurities as a smith removes the dross from silver.
    Dhammapada 239 (Buddhism)
By sustained effort, earnestness, discipline, and self-control, let the wise man make for himself an island which no flood can overwhelm.
    Dhammapada 25 (Buddhism)
Study of Torah leads to precision, precision to zeal, zeal to cleanliness, cleanliness to restraint, restraint to purity, purity to holiness, holiness to meekness, meekness to fear of sin, fear of sin to saintliness, saintliness to the holy spirit, and the holy spirit to life eternal.
    Talmud, Aboda Zara 20b (Judaism)
This Atman, resplendent and pure, whom sinless disciples behold residing within the body, is attained by unceasing practice of truthfulness, austerity, right knowledge and continence.
    Mundaka Upanishad 3.1.5 (Hinduism)
Make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these things are yours and abound, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
    2 Peter 1.5-8
Maintaining your self-cultivation for a long time will gradually lead to a congenial spirit; a congenial spirit will find one tender, generous, amiable, and agreeable. Anyone who hopes for this must eliminate his ill feelings and break up his anger, and be free of the adversity which invites opposition and attracts indignation. Personal and thorough investigation for a long time will gradually lead to the clarification of principle; perfect understanding will find one able to passively influence others without openly criticizing them. Anyone who heeds this will be well-informed and influential, and free of the worry of rising up in contention and being rejected.
    Even more must we actively observe the principles of things and deeply investigate our basic feelings; personally experience these things through your own faculties, carefully think about them through time—do these things and you will be free of the errors of bias and deceit. It is important that in all matters you always check your power of learning. If there should be any hindrances or irregularities probe deeply until you discover the malady and then root it out.
    Chu Hsi (Confucianism)
“Listen! A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seed fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured it. Other seed fell on rocky ground, where it had not much soil, and immediately it sprang up, since it had no depth of soil; and when the sun rose it was scorched, and since it had no root it withered away. Other seed fell among thorns and the thorns grew up and choked it, and it yielded no grain. And other seeds fell into good soil and brought forth grain, growing up and increasing and yielding thirtyfold and sixtyfold and a hundredfold.”…
    And he said to [his disciples], “Do you not understand this parable? The sower sows the word. And these are the ones along the path, where the word is sown; when they hear, Satan immediately comes and takes away the word which is sown in them. And these in like manner are the ones sown upon rocky ground, who, when they hear the word, immediately receive it with joy; and they have no root in themselves, but endure for a while; then, when tribulation or persecution arises on account of the word, immediately they fall away. And others are the ones sown among thorns; they are those who hear the word, but the cares of the world, and the delight in riches, and the desire for other things, enter in and choke the word, and it proves unfruitful. But those that were sown upon the good soil are the ones who hear the word and accept it and bear fruit, thirtyfold and sixtyfold and a hundredfold.” \
    Mark 4.3-20

Plant a Carob Tree for Your Children

Happy Pal Jung Shik Celebration (Settlement of the Eight Stages)
Declared 8/31/1989 at Kokiak, Alaska.

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Cheon Seong Gyeong 2160

Jesus knew that individual enemies
were not the only enemies. He knew that
family enemies, clan enemies, ethnic
enemies, national enemies, and glob-
al enemies surrounded him on all four
sides. This means that there are many
enemies awaiting those who want to fol-
low his path. It also means that if you
go the family path, there are family ene-
mies waiting, and if you go the clan path,
there are clan enemies waiting. You can
expect fierce battles, but you must love
those enemies whenever you encounter
them. If you possess this kind of spirit,
someday victory can be yours.

Cheon Seong Gyeong 1179

Through two thousand years of
Christianity God made the Second
Advent of the Lord possible. If, imme-
diately after World War II, I could have
stood on the victorious foundation of
Christianity and the United States based
on the Christian cultural sphere, would
I have undergone hardships? If they had
accepted me in those days, then who
would have been Mother? If Sung-jin’s
mother had been unable to take that
position, who would have replaced her?
It would have been a British woman. As
seen from God’s will, it would have been
a woman from Great Britain. The British
royal family would have made a connec-
tion with me. Doesn’t that belong to the
realm of Christian culture? Britain gave
birth to America. There was symbolic
significance to Korean president Rhee
Sung-man (Syngman Rhee) marrying
a western woman. Ultimately, due to
the opposition from Christianity, True
Mother gained this blessing. ( 181-217,

World Scripture and the Teachings of
Sun Myung Moon

Chapter 4

God’s Creation and Human Creativity


2. Conservation and Sustainable Development

Never does a Muslim plant trees or cultivate
land, and birds or men or beasts eat out of them,
but that is a charity on his behalf.
Hadith of Muslim (Islam)

The earth feels happy in the place where one
of the faithful cultivates wheat, grass and fruit,
where he waters ground that is dry, or dries out
ground that is too wet.
Avesta, Vendidad 3.1.4 (Zoroastrianism)

If you do not allow nets with too fine a mesh to
be used in large ponds, then there will be more
fish and turtles than they can eat; if hatchets
and axes are permitted in the forests on the hills
only in the proper seasons, then there will be
more timber than they can use… This is the first
step along the kingly way.
Mencius I.A.3 (Confucianism)

One day Honi the Circle-Drawer was journeying
on the road when he saw a man planting a carob
tree. He asked him, “How long does it take for
this tree to bear fruit?” The man replied, “Seventy
years.” He then further asked him, “Are you
certain that you will live another seventy years?”
The man replied, “I found ready grown carob
trees in the world; as my ancestors planted these
for me, so I too plant these for my children.”
Talmud, Taanit 23a (Judaism)

The sacred hoop of any nation is but one of
many that together make the great circle of
creation. In the center grows a mighty flower-
ing tree of life sheltering all the children of one
mother and one father. All life is holy.
People native to this land have long lived by
the wisdom of the circle, aware that we are part
of the Earth and it is part of us. To harm this
Earth, precious to God—to upset the balance of
the circle—is to heap contempt on its Creator.
Therefore, with all our heart and mind, we
must restore the balance of the Earth for our
grandchildren to the seventh generation.
Black Elk (Native American Religion)

The Lord said to Moses on Mount Sinai, “Speak
to the Israelites and say to them: ‘When you
enter the land I am going to give you, the land
itself must observe a sabbath to the l ord . For
six years sow your fields, and for six years prune
your vineyards and gather their crops. But in the
seventh year the land is to have a sabbath of
rest, a sabbath to the l ord . Do not sow your
fields or prune your vineyards.’”
Leviticus 15.1-4

There is a type of man whose… aim everywhere is
to spread mischief through the earth and destroy
crops and cattle. But God loves not mischief.
Qur’an 2.205

When you besiege a city for a long time, mak-
ing war against it in order to take it, you shall
not destroy its trees by wielding an axe against
them; for you may eat of them, but you shall not
cut them down. Are the trees in the field men
that they should be besieged by you?
Deuteronomy 20.19

The destruction of vegetable growth is an
offense requiring expiation.
Pacittiya 11 (Buddhism)

Rajah Koravya had a king banyan tree called
Steadfast, and the shade of its widespread
branches was cool and lovely. Its shelter
broadened to twelve leagues… None guarded
its fruit, and none hurt another for its fruit.
Now there came a man who ate his fill of
fruit, broke down a branch, and went his
way. Thought the spirit dwelling in that tree,
“How amazing, how astonishing it is, that a
man should be so evil as to break off a branch
of the tree, after eating his fill. Suppose the
tree were to bear no more fruit.” And the tree
bore no more fruit.
Anguttara Nikaya 3.368 (Buddhism)